Thanks marilyn,
i just copied this from the article. I think I am pretty well balanced and then a crises happens and the old behaviors start manifesting. So,the best way to stay balanced for me I think now would be to Journal and keep working the program. Thank you for the article and caring.
Diane E.
It may appear easier, at times, to not feel. We have so much responsibility because we have taken on so much responsibility for the people around us. We must do what is necessary anyway. Why take the time to feel? What would it change?
Sometimes we try to make our feelings disappear because we are afraid of them. To acknowledge how we really feel would demand a decision—action or change—on our part. It would bring us face to face with reality. We would become aware of what we're thinking, what we want, and what we need to do. And we're not ready to do that yet.
Codependents are oppressed, depressed, and repressed. Many of us can quickly tell what someone else is feeling, why that person is feeling that way, how long they've felt that way, and what that person is probably going to do because of that feeling. Many of us spend our lives fussing about other people's feelings. We try to fix people's feelings. We try to control other people's feelings. We don't want to hurt people, we don't want to upset them, and we don't want to offend them. We feel so responsible for other people's feelings. Yet, we don't know what we are feeling. If we do, we don't know what to do to fix ourselves. Many of us have abandoned or never taken responsibility for our emotional selves.
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